7 Essentials for self-love

Do you know what self-love means? Quite a lot of people think that it is pretty much self-esteem and confidence together. For those who think the same, it’s not. It’s far more than just those two words we try and wear as a badge so proudly.

So what does self-love look like? Self-love is when you accept yourself. Self-love is when you like and respect yourself. Self-love is striving to give yourself the best life you possibly can.


What the lack of self-love looks like:

1. You internalise negative comments.

2. You limit yourself by believing that you can’t achieve anything.

3. Other people’s words and actions dictate what you will achieve.


“You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

It’s important to know that what you think about yourself impacts the way you behave. Self-doubt is poison and will slowly but surely cripple you. Only YOU can turn self-doubt into self-love. Have you considered lately what you think about yourself? Have a look at what is stopping you from going for gold.

7 Things I want to challenge you with:

1. Stay focused on the positive things in your life.

It’s getting too easy to talk about the bad. Negative thoughts have a way of taking over our mind before we even notice that it is happening. Try to stay fixed on the positive things in your life.

2. Look after yourself.

You deserved to be pampered. “Me time” is one of the utmost important things we need in order to love and look after ourselves. Treat yourself the same way you will treat the people in your life. Do the things YOU love to do and do nice things for YOURSELF.


3. Write down all your achievements.

You are beautiful and wonderfully put together. You deserve to be celebrated so write down those achievements and don’t you dare forget how far you have come.

4. Respect yourself.

You need to remember to go easy on yourself. Stop worrying about the small stuff. Deal with yourself in kindness. You deserve gentleness.

5. Grow and work on yourself.

Quite often when we lack self-love, we withdraw from life and all the exciting things. We miss out on taking part in life and having fun without feeling the “eyes” burning the back of our skulls. Learn new skills and open yourself up to new experiences.


6. Challenge yourself.

Experiencing new things and realising that you actually don’t suck as much as you thought feels amazing. Take it a day at a time but DO challenge yourself. You might just find that you have SO MUCH more potential than you ever imagined.

7. Stick to healthy relationships.

The biggest thief of self-love is toxic relationships. Love yourself enough to only invest in relationships who add value to your life. Quit listening to the negativity. Stop carrying other people’s burdens who only like to knock your feet out from under you while you are carrying THEIR heavy load. You need positive people in your life who encourage you and support your dreams.


Build your confidence and decide on what you believe about yourself. Self-love is freeing.


Lots of love



She Is Strong

There is something amazing happening in the world at the moment. Women are standing up for what they deserve and finding their identities within instead of in the world. I am still on “the” journey and yet to find out what it DOESN’T mean to be a woman, but something I need to remind myself daily is that I am strong. I can and I will. I have the ability to conquer whatever comes my way and I do not need a man’s assistance. I also don’t need a group of girls to follow me or hold my hand to do anything. I do not need the perfect body to achieve great things nor do I need a tanned, smooth and scar free skin to be me. One thing I do need is to know that I am strong. Even at my weakest moments. I am enough, and strongly just so.

Below is a free download for your phone’s wallpaper/screensaver. I will be designing one every month to serve as a little sticky note to remind you that you are enough in this world.


To save, tap and hold your finger in on the photo and then select save. 👇🏻👇🏼👇🏽👇🏾👇🏿

I am Strong-2


Lots of love



My Oasis

It took me some time to actually attend an E-Woman Event. Not because I didn’t like E-Woman or that I didn’t believe in what it stands for. I think if I had to be brutally honest, it’s because I lacked the confidence and I gave up on myself. I still pretty much lack confidence but I am working on it. In general, I struggle to attend social gatherings where I know things will get deep and well… social. I’m not sure why, yet.

When Bianca invited me to another event, my husband put his foot down and told me that I simply HAD to go. I am glad he did. All I needed was an excuse to tell myself, “Well LeoAnn, you can’t chicken out this time, you are forced to go”. Guess what, I absolutely loved it! Turns out, God had HUGE plans for me that day.


Before I go into what God told me at the event, I have to share a little bit about my story. I am newly married and opened a new business with my husband 2 weeks after we got back from honeymoon. I’m 24 years old and have no huge savings and neither does my husband. We took one huge risk so early in our marriage on top of not having financial stability. When I was 18, I was diagnosed with PCOS and was told that I will most likely never have kids. This was, and sometimes still is, a devastating thought to me. I am the oldest of 6 kids. My mom passed when I was young. Needles to say, a lot of the responsibilities became mine. Only at the age of 24 am I learning how to be a sister and not a mother. At the age of 24 I am learning how to relax and find my voice. At the age of 24 I am learning how to be a child. It’s not easy.


At the event, Bianca spoke about relationship and what it means to truly have a relationship with God. I thought, “mmhm got that done and dusted”. HAH! Jokes on me! She went on talking about having a REAL relationship with God and not a fake one. She spoke about needing to go towards the oasis when we are in a desert. She spoke about what it looks like when we are not planted by the stream. And that was when I realised how deep into the desert I was.

I constantly found myself feeling tired and that I couldn’t go on in life. I struggled to tell people how I take my coffee and whether I wanted to attend a dinner or not. I couldn’t voice myself because I belittled myself constantly and kept reminding myself that the one thing God made me to be I was failing in, and that was to be a woman. I used to think to myself, “I can’t even be a normal woman, what are the chances of me being anything else AND do it well?”. All I did was worry day in and day out. I wanted to know my purpose. I wanted to know where I was going in life and whether or not we will ever have kids. The unknown is not something I deal well with. But then she read this…


Isaiah 32:15-20

15 till the Spirit is poured on us from on high,
    and the desert becomes a fertile field,
    and the fertile field seems like a forest.
16 The Lord’s justice will dwell in the desert,
    his righteousness live in the fertile field.
17 The fruit of that righteousness will be peace;
    its effect will be quietness and confidence forever.
18 My people will live in peaceful dwelling places,
    in secure homes,
    in undisturbed places of rest.
19 Though hail flattens the forest
    and the city is leveled completely,
20 how blessed you will be,
    sowing your seed by every stream,
    and letting your cattle and donkeys range free.


Bianca reminded me that the enemy uses time to distract us and that it cannot operate in peace. I realised that I had to die first as a seed in order to be planted by the stream and grow to bare fruit. I had to stop with “me, myself and I” and experience the word first hand. I have faith that God will give me the portion that I need and when I need it. Until then I am going to enjoy the shade and cool water we find planted by the stream.

What are you struggling with at the moment? It’s okay to find yourself in a desert every now and then. Just remember to find your oasis and everything will be okay. 


James 4:8

Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.


Lots of love




Chrismari van Niekerk


Ahhh Chrisi, not even sure where to start. This is one beautiful woman, inside and out. She has the most gentle touch to everything and her wedding expressed just that.

Chrismari’s wedding was one of our first weddings we did this year whilst on our new adventure with She Knows Professional Hair & Makeup. And gosh, to try and describe the peace that filled the atmosphere that day is an impossible task.

Chrismari, I just know that your new journey with your husband will be one for the books.

Lots of love



Chris & Jessica Van Niekerk


Chris and Jessica’s wedding wasn’t like any other. We can honestly say that Jess was the first bride we worked with who got married in a pink wedding dress. And guess what. We absolutely LOVED it!

Styling Jess’ hair and makeup has been one of our most pleasant experiences. The couple is fun-loving and full of adventure. We wish them the very best and a beautiful happily ever after.

Lots of love



Happily Eder After

The Eder Wedding was by far one of my favourite weddings of 2017. Bonita changed the way I saw many things. When she walked through the doors of The Cottage for the first time, I could see the love and confidence she brought with her. Needless to say, the Eder Wedding was vivacious.

Together, Chad and I styled the beautiful couple’s hair on their big day. What a blessing it was to spend some time with them on their big day. Not only are they two amazing individuals, but to see the wonderful community that surrounded them and blessed them on the day was exceptional.

Jarrod and Bonita, it was an absolute pleasure to do your hair. We truly enjoyed celebrating the joys with you.

Happily Eder After


Lots of love



Show Up & Laugh


It’s rather awkies not being the one behind the camera but the one in the spotlight. I’m not used to it at all.

A few years ago I was pretty much one of the selfie queens. I can’t really put my finger on the day it all changed but I know something in my heart changed dramatically. I started loving myself differently. I started enjoying life and taking part instead of faking life.

For the past 2 years I have been a bit camera shy. Not because I didn’t want to take photos. I either simply enjoy our moments SO much that I forget to take photos or i’m the one taking photos of the people around me.

My favourite quote at the moment is “Take a selfie. Fake a life.” How true is this? Don’t get me wrong. I’m not hating on selfies. Chad and I are guilty at sneaking one in every now and then. I’m hating on the millions of angles we try out to get the best one possible. To which standards though? To what extent do you want to push yourself into a fake life and a fake you? What are you trying to prove and to who? Are they really THAT important?

I think one of my favourite feelings in life is laughing with someone and realising half way through how much you enjoy them and their existence.

This photo captured that exact moment. Awkward or not, the goal is to laugh forever with someone you take serious. Someone who actually shows up.


Choose Yourself

I have learnt quite a lot during my first week of holiday. Spending time with my family and my husband has done so much for me. It’s been quiet and I absolutely love it.

There are many New Years’ posts going around and I love seeing what people are putting out there. My biggest prayer is that this year people will be real with themselves and not be scared to be real with others. My goals for 2018 are real. I might fail 100x over but I will get up and face them head on every time. And I will not be ashamed to talk about my failures but rather celebrate the growth that will come from it with people who matter.


In this short period of time I have learnt that:

  •  I am enough.
  •  It is what it is.
  •  My biggest regrets are often that I am too nice, too apologetic when I have done nothing wrong and making unworthy people a priority in my life.
  •  People may not always tell you how  they feel, but they will always show you. Pay attention.

My daddy once said, “Choose people who choose you.” So this year I am learning to walk away from situations that threaten my peace of mind, self-respect and self-worth.


Stay close to people who feel like sunshine.

Lots of love



Finding My Voice

In a conversation yesterday I found myself talking about decluttering my life. I spoke about how I simply unfriended people in my heart that sat around like ornaments without a purpose.


People who “loved” me when they needed something but disappeared when life got good. Harsh? No not really… it’s called being healthily selfish.

I started seeing all the things in my life

that simply take up space and make me feel


I took that a step further… I have 5 shirts and 3 pairs of pants in my wardrobe and I have never enjoyed getting dressed in the mornings as much as I do at the moment.
As of that moment I decided that i will rebuild my life, my heart and my home with things I treasure, things I actually like and people I actually love. And who loves me back.

I have changed, my style has changed and will constantly change. It’s because my heart changed and slowly I find my voice again. My voice that I will not smother because of someone else.